Your 20's are a free for all

I swear that every time I get on Facebook, I see at least one engagement, bachelorette party, wedding photo or something of the sort. As a 23-year-old woman, this comes with so much pressure. Questions I ask myself:

  • She's my age...should I be married too?
  • They've been dating as long as my boyfriend and I...should we be engaged?
  • Isn't it a bit soon to be married?
  • What's it like to share bills with someone?
  • What if they get divorced?
  • Did she choose "the one"? Is she sure?
  • Are they happy?
  • Am I happy?

In this episode of Dos Cocos, I wondered if the pressure comes is a result of my own desire to be married; is it reminding me of something I don't have yet? Or is social media a hopeless breeding ground for comparison?

But then I think...reality check...?? Last month, my mom paid for my orthodontist appointment to replace my lost retainer. I am not ready to be a grown adult who gets married. I sometimes toast marshmallows in my oven for dinner. It's not uncommon for me to go a week without shaving my legs. Yes, even in the summer. 

In the words of Taylor Swift, these years are "happy, free, confusing, lonely at the same time." Almost anything goes in your 20's. You can be fresh out of college or living in your parents basement working at Starbucks. You can be single like an episode of Girls, or married with your second child on the way. Getting a masters degree or starting your own business. No one's on the same page. That's what makes it so exciting and terrifying. 

My personal opinion: space this shit out. Life only happens once and there's a time for everything. Graduation. New career. Carefree trips with friends. Picking out your own apartment. Being at your parents house hanging out with your siblings like you're still 14. Get the most out of every moment. Some milestones are time sensitive and not worth rushing. When you're 40 on the mundane grind, you're going to wish you'd relished those unpredictable, chaotic years.